tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post6920412219539844953..comments2023-05-23T01:17:43.299-07:00Comments on The Yippie Chronicles: Judge Not...nejhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16847088250687320006noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-23861029086133159942010-09-14T18:57:54.301-07:002010-09-14T18:57:54.301-07:00@Claudia - Welcome. I'm flattered that you fi...@Claudia - Welcome. I'm flattered that you find my blog so irresistible. I will do my best to make it worth your while. And anyone who starts a comment with "well, fuck me sideways" is as America as you get, no matter where you currently reside. :)<br /><br />Oh, and nej are my initials. I find it high-larious that it means "no" in Danish because most old folks (and nejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16847088250687320006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-71412634640530996102010-09-14T18:46:05.556-07:002010-09-14T18:46:05.556-07:00You get to judge when someone's actions are hu...You get to judge when someone's actions are hurting someone's feelings or body. We judge ourselves the same way! Do we get to say anything about it? Not always. <br /><br />I find myself speaking up a lot in public situations where I used to hold my tongue. Now, I approach it by asking, "Do you need some help with this?" This is often met with the parent looking at me like I'Melissahttp://tandemteaching.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-47272305862445583682010-09-14T03:34:25.750-07:002010-09-14T03:34:25.750-07:00Well, fuck me sideways. I wasn't going to allo...Well, fuck me sideways. I wasn't going to allow myself any more mommy blogs, and now I must. If I may be counted among the far-flung readers, I'm in Denmark (but am American, dammit).<br /><br />To respond to the judging, it's hard. I concur with the others.<br /><br />P.S. What does nej stand for? Cuz in Danish, it means "no." It's pronounced /nigh/.Claudiahttp://lettersfromdenmark.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-9171457743978381522010-09-09T11:00:02.122-07:002010-09-09T11:00:02.122-07:00@mom2boy - Just so long as you stay on Twitter...@mom2boy - Just so long as you stay on Twitter...caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-38618855350699904902010-09-09T10:59:20.140-07:002010-09-09T10:59:20.140-07:00Agreed with the others. I really have nothing to a...Agreed with the others. I really have nothing to add. All those examples you gave? Made me almost cry, and I'm at work. And I'm hormonal with PMS and all that. So I'm having trouble thinking about what we can do about it as a society, culture, neighbors etc. <br /><br />I'm also trying really hard to remember that my culture and cultural experience can be so different from those caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-12856154722186004022010-09-07T02:30:34.285-07:002010-09-07T02:30:34.285-07:00I think the proper term is "deactivated"...I think the proper term is "deactivated", which I guess is like hiding the bottle of liquor on a shelf you need a chair to reach? But again, my fed tax notes are open in front of me and here I am typing away in the comments section. <br /><br />I want to live in a city where healthy eating/living is the norm. Or a country where they don't snack. Or factory farm...mom2boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00784436196685595115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-19916664477105189382010-09-05T13:52:16.568-07:002010-09-05T13:52:16.568-07:00geeks in rome said (before I accidentally deleted ...geeks in rome said (before I accidentally deleted it while trying to moderate comments with a sleeping babe in arms):<br /><br />re: food and weight issues: I think you're right on that one, too, nej. If you look at the crap that food is laden with in the US... just weird unnecessary added oils and sugars. The processing and soda pop are the main culprits. Americans did not look like this in nejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16847088250687320006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-31177657661210792762010-09-04T18:59:03.491-07:002010-09-04T18:59:03.491-07:00I'm sorry your first pediatrician was no good....I'm sorry your first pediatrician was no good... Our pediatrician absolutely rocks. She would definitely talk to the mom with the overweight toddler.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-17754508065309330902010-09-04T15:21:37.123-07:002010-09-04T15:21:37.123-07:00@geeks in rome - Cubans are a lot like Italians (m...@geeks in rome - Cubans are a lot like Italians (minus all the cheese) and now that I've had a chance to process your comment, I think that that might be part of what bothers me so much about our society. Where I come from, everybody is in everybody's business, even though we pretend not to be, and while being part of the village has it's downfall, as you pointed out, one of the goodnejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16847088250687320006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-17425389817008448542010-09-03T21:14:22.090-07:002010-09-03T21:14:22.090-07:00Oooh. Hard one.
I guess you can judge all you wan...Oooh. Hard one.<br /><br />I guess you can judge all you want- its what you do with that judgment that matters, right?<br /><br />I'd probably call child protective services on the kid with the bruises from a belt.<br /><br />I actually think, the mom who shows up drunk and has kids with fetal alcohol syndrome has an illness... but that doesn't mean that I don't think society owes it Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-15947526548060829312010-09-03T17:22:13.661-07:002010-09-03T17:22:13.661-07:00@NEJ - Ha. I killed my fb account, it was too dist...@NEJ - Ha. I killed my fb account, it was too distracting, but I just can't quit my mom blogs...mom2boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00784436196685595115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-52063931964140189542010-09-03T16:23:46.978-07:002010-09-03T16:23:46.978-07:00What do we do? How do we help (as a culture)? I ha...What do we do? How do we help (as a culture)? I have no idea. I think there is already plenty of social pressures on obese people and even on people of healthy weights to be thin. I think we have to get at root causes. Like we have to figure out why so many self-medicate with food, and why our society is structured so children and adults alike are spending so much time indoors in front of a hushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05532820460835325762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-21665939665565803082010-09-03T14:42:07.196-07:002010-09-03T14:42:07.196-07:00Love your line about "Public moments are rare...Love your line about "Public moments are rarely indicative of a person's day-to-day reality." I would love a t-shirt that says that for those moments the kiddos are screaming!<br /><br />I grew up in a very Victorian-era, stoicism-rules kind of culture and basically you ignored EVERYTHING: evidence of child abuse, injustices happening to you or others you name it. It wasn't geeks in romehttp://www.geeksinrome.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-50246322082357568622010-09-03T11:14:36.764-07:002010-09-03T11:14:36.764-07:00@Working Mom - That's what was being thrown ar...@Working Mom - That's what was being thrown around the other day when this topic came up in a conversation. The general consensus was that to some extent, it is child abuse but that really, it's also teen abuse and adult abuse as the ramifications of being an obese toddler are life-long. <br /><br />@mom2boy - I imagine that your fed tax class is super exciting, so I am incredibly nejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16847088250687320006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-49376401090583268922010-09-03T10:14:56.419-07:002010-09-03T10:14:56.419-07:00I say it is ok to judge (privately, to yourself).....I say it is ok to judge (privately, to yourself)... but be careful to get all the facts & watch out for incorrect stereotyping. <br /><br />In fact, I'd go as far as to say that when people engage in a feel-good policy of "no judgments whatsoever, I accept ALL people," they are lying. And if they're not lying, then they're displaying poor judgment, and will make bad hushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05532820460835325762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-7785589754285112172010-09-03T07:56:59.871-07:002010-09-03T07:56:59.871-07:00I'm not sure mental comparing and contrasting ...I'm not sure mental comparing and contrasting is altogether avoidable.<br /><br />Like right now my fed tax teacher is drinking a tall boy of sugar free redbull at 10:00 in the morning. I'm not judging - just observing....<br /><br />Visible bruising on a child from corporal punishment seems like child abuse to me. Would I say something? Probably not but it would be one of the things I&#mom2boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00784436196685595115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3285935427567155097.post-45231116926175699442010-09-02T20:27:04.677-07:002010-09-02T20:27:04.677-07:00Funny enough we were just having a debate over fat...Funny enough we were just having a debate over fat kids...equivalent to child abuse no? That's what we believe in the Lee family...Working Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18247635377340034737noreply@blogger.com